Supporting couples navigating disconnection, recurring conflict, and attachment wounds.

Attachment-Focused and Somatic Therapy for Couples

Many couples come to therapy feeling caught in patterns that keep repeating. Conversations escalate quickly, distance grows where closeness is wanted, or the same arguments come up despite genuine care and effort.

Often, these struggles are not about communication skills alone, but about deeper attachment needs, nervous system responses, and unspoken emotional pain that shape how partners relate to one another.

You might be a good fit for this work if you are:

  • A couple experiencing recurring conflict, emotional distance, or a sense of being stuck

  • Finding that reactivity or shutdown takes over during important moments

  • Wanting to understand why certain patterns keep repeating

  • Carrying unresolved hurt or resentment that hasn't been fully addressed

  • Carrying the impact of earlier attachment or relational wounds

  • Looking for therapy that goes beyond problem-solving and addresses emotional connection

How I Work

My work with couples is relational, experiential, and somatically informed. Rather than focusing only on insight or strategies, we pay attention to what is happening in real time—emotionally, relationally, and in the body—where patterns actually live and change.

I draw significantly from attachment-based approaches to couples therapy, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), while also integrating somatic and experiential modalities that support nervous system regulation, emotional awareness, and new relational possibilities.

While my practice is primarily focused on couples, I also work with individuals who want to explore how their attachment history, relational patterns, and embodied experience shape their lives and relationships.

I hold a Master’s degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies and engage in ongoing training and consultation in attachment-based, somatic, and experiential approaches to psychotherapy.

My work is informed by training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), AEDP, Relational Life Therapy, and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy.

Working Together

  • Sessions are offered via telehealth and in person in Marin, SF, and Berkeley.

  • Sessions are private pay

  • Based in California

  • Currently accepting new clients

To inquire about working together, please contact me at:
binky.mendoza@mindfulcenter.org