Somatic and Attachment-Focused Therapy
Supporting individuals and couples in moving beyond insight into felt, meaningful change
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
People often come to therapy knowing something needs to heal — but not quite being able to access it. You may have done work before, or understand your patterns intellectually, yet still find yourself in the same place.
This kind of stuck often lives below the surface — in nervous system patterns, attachment wounds, and early experiences that shaped how you relate to yourself and others.
The work I do with individuals is experiential and body-informed, oriented toward what hasn't yet been fully felt or known.
You might be a good fit for this work if you are:
Carrying hurt, grief, or trauma that hasn't had space to fully move
Holding something that's hard to name — and hard to put down
Feeling mired in low mood, or anxiety that keeps returning no matter what you try
Going through the motions on the outside while something harder is happening on the inside
Feeling alone with it — like it's too much, too private, or too complicated to fully share
Wondering why certain things still affect you so much, even when you thought you'd moved past them
Feeling like you've done work on yourself — read the books, tried the things — and still finding yourself back in the same place
Ready for therapy that goes beyond insight — toward actual felt change
COUPLES THERAPY
Relationships can get to a place where caring can’t quite break through negative cycles. Conversations escalate quickly, distance grows where closeness is wanted, or the same arguments come up despite genuine care and effort.
Often, these struggles are not about communication skills alone, but about deeper attachment needs, nervous system responses, and unspoken emotional pain that shape how partners relate to one another.
You might be a good fit for this work if you are:
A couple experiencing recurring conflict, emotional distance, or a sense of being stuck
Finding that reactivity or shutdown takes over during important moments
Wanting to understand why certain patterns keep repeating
Carrying unresolved hurt or resentment that hasn't been fully addressed
Carrying the impact of earlier attachment or relational wounds
Looking for therapy that goes beyond problem-solving and addresses emotional connection
How I Work
My work is relational, experiential, and somatically informed. Rather than focusing only on insight or strategies, we pay attention to what is happening in real time — emotionally, relationally, and in the body — where patterns actually live and change.
My work is anchored in Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Relational Somatic Healing (RSH).
AEDP guides my work with individuals, oriented toward emotional healing and transformation. EFT guides my work with couples, helping partners move out of negative cycles and toward secure connection.
I hold a Master's degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies.
Working Together
Sessions are offered via telehealth and in-person in Marin and San Francisco
Sessions are private pay. Superbills are available for potential out-of-network reimbursement
Based in California
Currently accepting new clients
To inquire about working together, please contact me at:
binky.mendoza@mindfulcenter.org415-320-6037
Binky Mendoza, LMFT #162386 | California